Psychotic Paranoia – The Impact Of Trust On Relationships
‘It’s poisoned,’ I think to myself, nails digging into my palms with panic. ‘The food in my flat has been poisoned, and I cannot trust anything or anyone.’ Rewind to November last year and here I am, perched on the knife-edge of reality and confusion, completely tangled in my own mind.
The mania had started in textbook fashion, and rapidly, as always, I’d gone from slightly speedy and vivacious to a girl careening out of control. I was adamant in the belief of my own immortality to the point where I tried to walk in front of cars, and stayed up for days at a time. They all ran after me with nets, telling me that I needed routine, that my medication would start working again soon, but their nets could not catch me and I continued to fly.
My thoughts were a frenzied, disorganized factory, conveyor belts stuck on top speed with thought-boxes haphazardly strewn about as I tried to make sense and sort my way through them. Unable to focus on anything, my sentences blurred with half formed ideas. My speech blurting out as if someone had hit fast forward but yet, to me, everybody was talking through thick treacle. At some point during the chaos, a thread began to form and take shape, pushing its way to the fore of my mind with prickly awareness.
I was being watched. I was being followed. People were out to get me. I stopped leaving the flat, only stepping out in order to obtain a sick note from the doctor. I trembled as I sat in the waiting room, knowing I was being watched. I was afraid that even the doctor was out to harm me, and so was guided into the appointment by my partner’s firm hand.
The paranoia had a gritty taste; I could feel it clawing to the back of my brain and evermore increasing, decreeing that less and less people could be trusted.
I pushed my friends away, fractured my relationships. I accused them of things that became wilder with each utterance– they were following me, they were selling information about me, or worse – they were out to get me. They made frantic attempts to reach out to me, to prove that they were innocent of all the wrong doings, but I met them with a brick wall of silence or another torrent of accusations.
My diagnosis of bipolar disorder has had a clear impact on my relationships. Episodes of paranoia and psychosis alongside the dramatic swings from crashing lows to the soaring bittersweet highs have done nothing to help this matter. Far from pushing me into the arms of my loving friends and family, the sinking feeling of dread and horror pulls me away from them.
Luckily, my partner seems exempt from this for the most part. I am, unfortunately, almost too reliant on him as I ride the waves of emotion. At times, even he has come under scrutiny as I demand he ‘prove’ he is himself by telling me something only I would know.
Sadly I have no cure for this; I do not know how to prevent this sickly paranoia from returning. When it does, I keep it at bay with emergency little white pills of calm until I can see a professional with their concerned looks. Unfortunately, the last time I suffered extreme paranoia, my psychotic symptoms only worsened until I was admitted to a psychiatric unit.
Rebuilding relationships after episodes was tricky. I trod on the broken glass of shattered friendships and tried to explain that I was not myself, I had not been in the right frame of mind.
With every passing episode, however, I am more prepared, another piece of armour is added to my collection. I can let those I love know I am feeling unwell and that I might not behave as I usually do around them.
My routine of different coloured pills and visits to the all-seeing psychiatrist do help with keeping the monster at bay, but that’s not to say it won’t return, rearing its ugly head of doubt and putting that match in my hand to try and burn bridges once more.